210th Fifty Shades of Grey Erotic Gift Set

The Fifty Shades of Grey Revolution

As women around the globe are reading Fifty Shades of Grey and then shopping for the erotic products used in the book, the media and bloggers alike are speculating as to why women are suddenly interested in ‘mommy porn’ and bondage.  Personally, I don’t see anything sudden about it.  Women have been reading erotica for centuries and if satin blindfolds and bondage ties weren’t already hot items there wouldn’t be so many different brands manufacturing them.  What’s been changing in recent years is women taking control of their sexuality and being more vocal about it.

As pleasure goods and erotica for women become more mainstream, and the taboo surrounding a women owning her sexuality lessens, women are  taking control of what gives them pleasure.  And with on line and brick and mortar erotic shops having evolved into more women friendly environments, they’re enjoying the freedom to shop and purchase items they’ve fantasized about, read about, desired.  And the Fifty Shades trilogy is giving them all kinds of new ideas.  And they’re talking about it.

As critics call Fifty Shades of Grey a ‘literary nightmare’ all I can say is ‘I don’t watch porn hoping to see an Oscar winner, and I don’t read erotica hoping to read a Nobel prize winner’.  It’s entirely about the ‘hotness factor’, and this book is steamy.  And if it gives a woman the desire to turn what might have become stale or routine sex she’s been having with her partner into a steamy, hot, light bondage session, then yay!  If all the talk and openness about the trilogy is inspiring women to take control of their pleasure and read or shop for things that turn them on, they yay again!

So we want to know……have you read Fifty Shades of Grey or are you planning to?  (or planning not to) If you’ve read it, did you enjoy it?  Did it give you any new ideas or thoughts or inspire you to try something new?  Bought any whips lately? 🙂

210th Shades Erotic Gift Set

The 210th Shades Erotic Gift Set


If I Were Santa

I received this in an email this morning and thought ‘I need a rockin’ Santa!’.  Merry Christmas everyone!


If I were a rockin’ Santa,
You know what I’d do?
I’d dump the silly gifts
That are given to you.

I’d deliver some things
Just inside your front door —
Things you have lost,
But treasured before.

I’d give you back all
Your maidenly vigor,
And to go along with it,
A neat, tiny figure;

Then restore the old color
That once graced your hair
Before rinses and bleaches
Took residence there.

I’d bring back the shape
With which you were gifted,
So things now suspended
Need not be uplifted.

I’d draw in your tummy
And smooth down your back
Till you’d be a dream
In those tight fitting slacks!

I’d remove all your wrinkles
And leave only one chin,
So you wouldn’t spend hours
Rubbing grease on your skin.

You’d never have flashes
Or queer dizzy spells,
And you wouldn’t hear noises
Like ringing of bells.

No sore aching feet,
And no corns on your toes
No searching for spectacles
When they’re right on your nose.

Not a shot would you take
In your arm, hip or fanny
From a doctor who thinks
You’re a nervous old granny.

You’d never have a headache,
So no pills would you take.
And no heating pad needed
Since your muscles won’t ache.

Yes, if I were Santa,
You’d never look stupid.
You’d be a cute little chick
With the romance of a cupid.

I’d give a lift to your heart
When those wolves start to whistle,
And the joys of your heart
Would be light as a thistle.

But alas! I’m not Santa.
I’m simply just me,
The matronest of matrons
You ever did see.

I wish I could tell you
All the symptoms I’ve got,
But I’m due at my doctor’s
For an estrogen shot.

Even though we’ve grown older
This wish is sincere:
Merry Christmas to you!
And a Happy New Year!

Author Unknown

Where has the year gone?

Wow, I have no idea how it happened but the year just flew by, and I completely ignored this blog.  My resolution this approaching new year?  To use this blog!

It really has been an exciting, eventful, wonderful and sometimes exhausting year.  I thought maybe it would be best to update the happenings throughout 2011 before just jumping in and trying to post something meaningful.  It really wouldn’t be meaningful if no one had a clue to what I was referring to in the future  now would it?

Earlier this year we were thrilled to be listed by Hewson Group’s ‘Women Sex & Shopping’ as one of the top 10 retailers in the pleasure goods sector.  Women Sex and Shopping contends that:

the Women’s Pleasure Goods sector needs re-invention and a move away from an unsuitable aesthetic and merchandising.

Boutique d’Amour began out of frustration with the lack of pleasure goods sites that were appealing to women over 40 and carried a good selection of high quality products without the high end pricing.  We knew we were on the right track when Women Sex & Shopping deemed us:

a website that is part of the future and not the past.

Our vision is to keep moving forward into the future and to continue to add quality products in all areas of what women consider to be ‘Pleasure Goods’.

In keeping with this ‘moving forward’ ideal we wanted to add a line of jewelry that wasn’t just erotic, but also artistically beautiful.  We found this with Sylvie Monthule, a Paris designer who creates some of the most beautiful and erotic jewelry available today.  Handcrafted pieces cast with 18 carat gold or sterling silver and inset with precious stones, we felt these were a perfect addition to Boutique d’Amour.

Sylvie Monthule Erotic Jewelry

Another exciting addition to our product line this fall was 210th.  Beautiful gift boxes filled with erotic luxuries and a little envelope of cards with ‘assignments’, a signature massage oil, Experience, that smells heavenly and is elegantly bottled in glass, we just had to have these in our store.

And really, we couldn’t leave the men out.  While Boutique d’Amour does focus primarily on products for women, men are important as well aren’t they?  We love our men to look good and feel good and well,  a happy man is just a lot more pleasant to be around.  So when Velv’Or released the JCobra we just had to have it.  The JCobra is the most stunningly beautiful piece of erotic artwork made for men.  This bespoke piece cannot be defined as either jewelry or a penis ring.  It is a gorgeous combination which combines both elegance and pleasure for him and pleasure for her with it’s strategically placed pearl.

Velv'Or JCobraIf you’re looking to buy yourself or your lover that perfect Christmas gift we are currently offering a FREE JNaja with the purchase of a JCobra, a FREE bottle of 210th Experience with the purchase of any of the 210th Boxes, $10 off the purchase of a JNaja, and 10% off nearly everything else when you use code CHRISTMAS01 until December 31st.

Art or pornography?

After spending the last few months getting Boutique d’Amour up and running I decided it was past time to start writing.  I set the blog up so I may as well use it right?  But for the life of me I couldn’t get my brain to pump out anything I deemed interesting.  Hundreds of e-mails a day in my inbox and nothing inspired me? And then, there it was.  A bright shiny beacon beckoning me from that same boring inbox.

I received an article about an exhibition at the Brno House of Arts.  I love art.  All kinds of art.  I love exhibits.  And I love making hubby take me to said exhibits.  I was going to have to do some fast talking if I wanted hubby to take me to this one though.  Either that or not show him the featured artist’s work before we go.

The artist is Joel Peter Witkin.  And if you’re at all squeamish, you might want to stop here.  Part of the description by The Brno House of Arts for the Decadence Now exhibition is:

‘Decadence is an often discussed theme in contemporary culture, feelings of hopelessness and crisis in contemporary civilization initiate an increase in the darker (decadent) side of the human inner soul as well as the world itself. Decadent art is extreme, it often transcends the limits of what is generally acceptable, it breaks down the most sensitive taboos in a provocative manner. It initiates, it demands formulation and a clear position and is irreconcilable with indifference.

Joel Peter Witkin’s work often deals with such themes as death, corpses (and sometimes dismembered portions thereof), and various outsiders such as dwarfs, transsexuals, hermaphrodites, and physically deformed people. Witkin’s complex tableaux often recall religious episodes or famous classical paintings.’

Joel Peter Witkin Decadence Now

These pictures are quite tame in comparison to many of his pieces.  I got quite an eye full after Googling him.  And if you’re anything like me, you’ll end up googling him as well.  Just to see.  Just as we all do when driving by the scene of an accident or watching a tragedy unfold or come across something we consider abnormal or different in some way.  And this brings me to my question.

What is art?  Who decides if something is art or pornography or just ‘pictures’?  What is art for some can often be rejected by others.  It’s entirely subjective.  So is it still art?

Elliott Erwitt says:

‘To me, photography is an art of observation.  It’s about finding something interesting in an ordinary piece. I’ve found it has little to do with the things you see, and everything to do with the way you see them’

Vintage Erotic Postcards Vintage Lesbian Erotic Postcard

In the early 1900’s the French were making some beautiful erotic postcards.  Considered by many today to be art and sought after by collectors, many of these photographs show women in various states of sexual activity with each other.  What makes these photographs ‘ar’t as opposed to ‘pornography’?  Is it the angle of the lens?  The lighting?  The props?  The photographer?  The popular vote?  If you took this same photograph today, same props, same lighting, women doing the same thing, but with models and camera technology today, would it still be considered art?  If we took that same photograph to place it on a pornography site, does it become pornography instead of art?  If a photograph is placed in an art gallery, does that make it art?  If I tell you it’s art, is it?

If art is subjective, and has everything to do with the way you see it, then where you see it will influence your decision on whether or not you consider it art.

So I will be dragging poor hubby along to this exhibition this weekend.  (Without showing him this blog first I think).  Art and pornography aside, my curiosity has definitely gotten the better of me regarding this artist and what could prompt a man to dismember corpses, position and prop them and then photograph them. I find myself compelled to view these tragic, abnormal and provocative pieces that I am told is art. And I wonder what my hubby will think about them.